Why the social aversion against 'women being obsessed with how they look' is so immensely hypocritical. Why it is completely understandable that people want to be attractive and the first reason/cause (why beauty is so important) also is created/facilitated by society itself.

Someone only has to mention that they (are insecure about or struggle with) how they look and people almost always become very annoyed, not understanding this. Women who do plastic surgery or use photoshop, standardly get tot deal with a whole load of annoyance and judgementalness.

There is, clearly, an enormous social aversion against (women being susceptible to) the ideal of beauty.

The hypocrisy couldn't be greater. The same people who are agitated by it, always focus on how people look themselves. Society does nothing else than constantly classifying/favoring/discriminating people based on how they look. People comment on it all the time. Society does this non-stop!

But if women care about how they look (as a result of how society treats people based on it, ironically enough!) it suddenly becomes incomprehensible?

Isn't that tremendously hypocritical?

People always say 'it's too insignificant to worry about/be busy with' but why do they pay attention to it and bring it up then themselves? When you constantly judge people on how others look, apparently you seem quite concerned about it yourself! How ironic is that?

Then you apparently also have expectations/preferences yourself that people need to be attractive.

So people themselves are allowed to unlimitedly focus on how others look, but God beware if people attach any value to their own appearance. Then it's annoying. Yet they have no problem doing it themself.

Isn't that very crooked and opportunistic?

And don't come up with "It's different". Whether you pay attention to other people's looks or to your own, it's irrelevant, in essence you are doing the exact same, which is that you care about the outer appearance.

And that's why all these clichés 'You just have to accept yourself as you are/not care about it' are so ironic, because society itself isn't even capable of not focussing on beauty without constantly bringing it up!

In fact, the first reason why people attach value upon how they look, is because of this to begin with!

Because they simply notice that you have (way!) worser chances in life if you happen to be ugly.

We do not realize that as an audience we (co-)create/facilitate to these beauty standards as well by judging people on this. As a result, people are gonna care about it.

That is why it is in my opinion completely understandable why women (and men, because they are often forgotten in this debate, but they also get inequally treated on it!) want to be good-looking so bad. You just get treated better (massively!) if you are good-looking.

There are huge privileges and benefits that come with being smoking hot. You will live a more pleasant life. Get better opportunities. Get treated better. Etc. Time and time again, ugly people get (humiliating) signals that their ugly self isn't good enough to stand a chance at love, at succes or in life.

Ugly people are just not regarded as interesting enough to be selected. So strange, isn't it, that everyone wants to be good-looking so bad as a result of that!? How illogical!

Man, how could you even blame people for wanting to be attractive?!

It is a huge determining factor in how relevant we find someone or not and in the opportunities you get.

A telling example of this social double standard is how people critized how ´ugly' Fabiola looked without make-up on tv (in contrast to her beautiful photoshopped photos online) criticizing women who do this.

What however easily gets ignored, is that the first reason why women start doing this (photoshop, plastic surgery, make-up, etc) is because they were rejected when they did show their natural ugly self. They already were naturel in life. And guess what. They didn't matter like hot women mattered.

Women use photoshop, wear lots of make-up (and start doing plastic surgery) based on that experience.

Strange, isn't it? That women then start looking for solutions to make themselves more beautiful!?

When they were discriminated against/disadvantaged for not being pretty? What strange and inlogical!

Not everyone has the privilege of looking attractive from nature. Solutions for that are a godsend. People bully or reject you for being ugly (but when you, as a result of that, search for solutions to fix these ugly features) then people start criticizing that! How ironic is that!? Society indirectly (co-)facilitates this!

And you know what's the greatest irony of it all? By being turned off (when they suddenly see how ugly someone truly looks) by this reaction people confirm/prove exactly why women do this in the first place! After all, just look at the reaction you get when you do show your ugly self. Then rejection is your destiny.

Therefore the argument"Why worry about something as insignificant as how you look" couldn't be more ironic. Because actually they worry about quite some fundamental things, if you think about it!

People's obsession with beauty, is in the core actually about inequal chances and discrimination.

People caring about beauty is actually more about socially relevant things than people want to stigmatize it for. It's not solely about beauty (well also!) but actually more about how people treat you based on it.

It's about your opportunities in life. So in fact, actually they care about quite some fundamental things.

Arguments people come up with to justify it the other way around:

I already hear the argument "It's not so strange people focussing on it when women put so much attention to looks, if they showed their naturel self (without surgery, photoshop etc) it even would be praised, the criticism is about showing a fake version of yourself, that causes irritation" but that is just nonsense.

When I still had (my natural) red hair, I was called a lighthouse, and got comments on my protruding ears. People on social media were literally annoyed by how ugly the (natural!) teeth of a woman on tv looked! Even the royal princesses (when they were still a teenager) were bullied on their (natural!) appearance.

So keep your sanctimonious arguments to yourself because even when people stay 'all natural' they are judged on this regardless. No matter what you do, people focus on the outer appearance regardless.

Or arguments such as "Humans just select on beauty from nature" and "The world is hard, accept it, own problem if you can't take this" but those arguments apply just as well for the people who care about their own appearance. They, too, care about how they look from nature. And do we also say 'that it is to insignificant to care about' when we focus on people's appearance ourselves? Nope, then it's allowed.

So let's stop the selective outrage, because we only use all those arguments opportunistically as it suits us.

Reactions like these not only (unintentionally) trivialize (the unequal opportunities that go with it) but you also trivialize how difficult this struggle can be mentally for people. People don't understand this also falls under mental health. Others not struggling with this actually IS a privilege.

That does not mean the argument of the importance of self-acceptance isn't factually true. In fact: even if there's more equal opportunities and diversity, I guarantee you: it doesn't stop ugly women from feeling inferior to beautiful women. Only self-love can take that away. There IS a truth in that.

But unfortunately you can't force self-acceptance. You either feel it or you don't.

What I notice (with all kinds of social topics) is that people always come up with moral arguments (why they justify or condemn it) when in reality (whether people are in favor of something or are against it) is more seperate from moralism than we think. Opportunism is a way more decisive factor. In this case people just don't give a damn about people being discriminated for it. That's the real truth (why people trivialize it) subconsciously. Pure insensitivy to other people's struggles.

People's hypocrisy is ironic when you think about it. Because if you as an outsider aren't even able to (not focus on how ugly someone looks) then how difficult must self-acceptance be for the person self (who has to live with it's ugly appearance and the inequal chances that go with it day in and day out!?

Doesn't that insight should create empathy instead of judgementalness?

Didn't they think 'it's too trivial to worry about/be busy with'? Well, if this is how people feel, then why they don't do it themselves? Oh! That's because people can't even live up to what they preach themselves!

You all aren't even capable of accepting people as they are yourself (when they happen to look ugly) otherwise people wouldn't be turned off by it/disadvantage people based upon it!

That's why all those people, first have to live to it themselves. To their principles (which they teach others...) to 'take yourself as you are'. Indeed yes, let's take ugly people as they are. Then do that. Then let's treat ugly people as good as good-looking people nor make (bullying) comments about it.

But no... actually people aren't even capable of this (nor even willing to put effort into this!) themself!

You know why? Because people secretly care tremendously about beauty themselves!

If anything, people's aversion against (women who care majorly about how they look) rather exposes an enormous social hypocrisy, in which double standards are used in an unprecedented way.